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9 November 2023, by Billy Boss

The Science of Confidence: Confidence is a Choice with Alyssa Dver

I want you to take some time and carefully think through the following questions:

• What would I do?
• Who would I be?
• Where would I live?
• What type of work would I do?
• What type of relationship would I love to be in?
• If I had confidence? And if I didn’t fear anything?

Struggling with confidence and not sure where to start? Well, my friend you are in for a treat. Alyssa Dver shares her profound tips and strategies on what it takes to start building confidence and how we can discover what are our triggers and fears.

Alyssa is the CEO of the American Confidence Institute and among all her achievements in her life she authored 7 books, and in 2020, her seventh bestseller hit the marker, called: “Confidence is a Choice”- Real Science, Superhero Impact.

With great joy, Alyssa coaches several start-ups, non-profits, and executives, but above all, Alyssa is most proud of being a mom to two very tall sons and one very quirky rescue pooch.

Let’s dive into the science of confidence and what to look for when we want to boost it!

Noted Timestamps:

06:43 - Our confidence has been stolen from us by certain situations, people, and things we do to ourselves. We self-sabotage our way by literally using negative self-talk. Conditioning is a big part of our confidence and usually comes from parents, teachers, or any authority figure from childhood, small or big trauma that brings those little triggers into our brain, which we call neuropathways. Every time you go to do that thing, it triggers it and reminds us that we can’t do it.

09:23 - The steps and strategies as to how we can repair our confidence.

11:05 - You must be super honest with yourself, and you have to say to yourself, “It’s about fear and it’s going to be one of these 3 fears. I want you to identify, which of these 3 fears is making you feel unconfident:

1. Fear of failing
2. Fear of regret
3. Fear of rejection

24:06 - 60 years to get to your most confident self?

25:36 – Confidence is a choice!

Alyssa’s message to all: Pay attention to things that make you uncomfortable and do not ignore them. Don’t let others make a choice for you as YOU have the power to make your own.

Alyssa’s Links:

Reach out to Alyssa - https://www.americanconfidenceinstitute.com/
Alyssa’s Podcast - https://www.americanconfidenceinstitute.com/podcasts/real-confidence